Today i wanted to touch base about one of my favorite subjects; the discomfort of “Change”. As a therapist working several years with adults dealing with Anxiety and relational issues; i’ve been always motivated to talk more about it. The life unavoidable state of impermanence, or better say the -permanent flow of changes-that many of us have trouble with. Shouldn’t we fear the static state of life instead? Many get so comfortable in the familiar, our comfort zones, routines, people, and behaviors.
The new, the difference. Although a lot has been said and written about it; the importance of change, learn something new, be mindful of our reactions. Reality is, it’s easier to grasp it on a logical level, make few adjustments here and there and keep going with same old routines, ways of behavior, emotions etc. Until life presents itself with a situation “out of the blue”, someone pushes our buttons, a relationship fall apart, a project or job ends… Meaning?
Change has been knocking the door! and either we are too busy or scare to embrace it, that when it happens, often when you less expected, shakes us to the core, forcing inner transformation.
Truth is, change could be pretty scary, requires a mindful practice and awareness. A balance that allows you not getting fixated on a version of self that is no longer serving us.
Lately i’ve been encouraging even more, the wonderful individuals I serve in my practice as psychotherapist, to stop talking about it and embrace the discomfort of doing something different, a new action, a new way of being, or reacting , even a new perspective. the goal? “get brained” on the wave of new possibilities that life brings us, detached from re-indentification of self that has no space for change. Would you embrace the challenge as well?
It gets better, and better with practice..
Anxiety gets only dysfunctional when we avoid the growing experience and we resist the change, to only make things worse.
Although I’m not suggestion taking “new big steps or actions” or make major decisions in the midst of crisis and high level of Anxiety – starting with embracing the discomfort progressively, understand the value of it , and then when grounded, take the first step.
The journey never ends.